John Cotter

John Cotter was born on January 26, 1995, in Pittsburgh, PA. He is much loved and wanted. His brother Nick had prayed for a brother for 3 years and John was born 2 weeks before Nicks 6th birthday. He is very bright, gets all A's, and very creative he loves to draw and make things and he loves to work. Once when he was in patient a worker let John help put up a rack, and John was so happy! On Oct 30th of last year a kind men who has helped our family a lot set up a John Cotter day, and John went to 7 businesses and worked, he made pretzels, stocked shelves, made hoagies, baked and came home 1 happy and exhausted little boy. He wants to be a carpenter and a Priest when he grows up so he wants to be a missionary Priest!

Also I want to add that no matter the out come of this I know that John belongs to God, not me, and I would rather have had him to love, for whatever time I have, then never to have had him at all.

When It All Started



Shortly after John's 7th birthday, around March of 2002, he was ill everyday with a low grade fever, leg pain and headache. I took him to his ped several times and was always told the same thing it is a flu that is hanging around. John was in the first grade, he loves to sing and was so looking forward to the spring concert on May 6,2002, but he was too ill for school. I called his ped and got him an appointment.
I was told the same thing that I had been told for 5 weeks he was ok. I got up and stood in front of the door and told the doc that I knew something was wrong with my son at that point he asked me how long he had been so pale he always was as he is a redhead the doc did a blood test and told me to take John to the ER at Childrens Hospital of Pittsburgh. I asked why and he said John's red count was 4. I asked what it should be and he said between 11 and 13.

In my heart I knew in that moment that he had leukemia. We went to Childrens and at about the time his concert was starting he began to get blood transfusions he could not believe what was happening to him. On May 7th he had a bone Marrow Aspiration and on May 8th, his sister Joan's 12th birthday, we were told that John had Acute lympoblastic Leukemia.

On May 9th, which was Assention Thursday, John had his medaport placed and began his chemo. From the very beginning he never complained and he told me he was offering his pain to God to save souls with. John was Consecrated to God the Father on his Baptism Day, Feb 12, 1995. His love of God and his faith and his beautiful smile and his acceptance of all that he has had to bear are what makes him special. On June 1, 2002 John made his First Holy Communion a year early it was the Feast day of Corpus Christi. I knew he needed the strength that he would find in the Eucharist and the grace he would need to fight this cancer. We received special permission from our Bishop for John to be Confirmed 6 years early, with his older brother Nick.

On March 3, 2003, John was in patient and very ill when that date came. Our pastor asked the bishop to come to the hospital to Confirm John, and he did. John made history in our Diocese twice he is the only 8 year old ever Confirmed and the only person ever that a bishop has Confirmed in a hospital.

John has 3 siblings Faith almost 16, Nick 14 and Joan 13. He is loved very much and everyone has taken his illness hard especially Joan. Last year was very hard, as John was tutored thru 2nd grade only going to school about 10 half days at the end to get used to being around children again. He did not sing for a year. I missed his sweet little voice. I was not allowed to hug or kiss him for a year he was mad at me for letting them do all those treatment to him. This past March John began Long Term Maintenance. His treatment will last until July of 2005. One of the Moms on a cancer list serve I am on said his motto could be "Chemo takes a dive in 2005!" John likes that.

In April I got John a collie mix puppy, and kids played with him again, he got to join baseball in May and his hair grew back and he started to sing again and one day he said you can hug me Mom but no kisses, the next day he said I'll have a kiss to and I got my little boy back! John is treated at Childrens Hospital of Pittsburgh, in the oncology clinic.

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Status: February 29, 2008



"...and pray for each other so that you may be healed.
The prayer of a  righteous person is powerful and effective." James 5:16.

Hi sandy,

I hope you get into your new home soon. Please tell Sammy happy 13th birthday for me. John turned 13 on Jan 26th. Here is his update. John has finished his first phase of treatment. He had a spinal today and is to go inpatient on march 3rd for his next phase, basically he will be in the hospital 1 week out of every 3. This treatment plan is brutal. I just pray that if john is not to survive then god will take him quickly and mercifully home to heaven.

I have signed do not resuscitate orders for john. Through all this john has never been angry at god or complained about this, he is suffering emotionally as well as physically and is so lonely. He is being homebound tutored and his friends have disappeared. Live for his laughter and comfort him in his sorrow. Please keep our family in your prayers.

Please keep him and my entire family in your prayers.

Love Lorraine

John's Web site: http://www.caringbridge.org/pa/ourJohn

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